How To Know If A Japanese Girl Likes You

How To Know If A Japanese Girl Likes You -There are an endless number of ways to tell if a girl likes you. I’m sure. And most of this probably applies to Japanese girls as well. But there’s a unique way in Japan to tell how interested a girl may be. It all comes to down to a name. Depending on how close or distant a guy and girl are, the way the guy is called by the girl can reveal a lot about the way she feels about him.

Let’s make it clear by using Hiroshi Suzuki (the most common first and last names in Japan) as an example. And remember, since the pronoun “you” is rarely used in Japan, the below names are used in place of the word “you” in normal conversation.

It generally goes in the following order:

6. Suzuki-san

Distant – san attached to the person’s last name.

5. Hiroshi-san

Somewhat distant – san attached to the person’s first name.

4. Hiroshi-kun

Slightly distant – kun attached to a person’s first name.

3. Hiroshi

Somewhat close – using just the person’s first name.

2. Hiroshi-chan

Close – attaching chan to the person’s first name.

1. Hiro-chan, Hi-chan, Shi-chan

Very close – abbreviating the person’s first name in a cute way and adding chan.

A real bonus hint

Up until now this may seem pretty normal. Using name endings and politeness to show distance or closeness makes sense. But there is one additional factor to show that she may be interested in you.

If she goes from the pronoun I, わたし(Watashi) or the more casual あたし(Atashi), and starts using her own name in the third person, things are looking good.

Which looks like the following:

How To Know When A Japanese Girl Likes You

If a girl starts referring to herself in the third person, she may have romantic interest in you. And that’s Japanese romance in a nutshell!

Super Warning: all of the above may actually mean nothing, and it is just her trying to be friendly to you.

But, if you are lucky enough, this could be you:

How To Know When A Japanese Girl Likes You 2
Any other verbal cues you’ve seen where a Japanese girl shows that she likes a guy?

Pictures taken from the manga: 僕だけがいない街

Related posts:

The following two tabs change content below.


Founder of Jalup. Spends most of his time absorbing and spreading thrilling information about learning Japanese.


How To Know If A Japanese Girl Likes You — 17 Comments

  1. Hmm in the intro you said you would use the name Takeshi, but then you used Hiroshi? did I miss something? haha

    While it’s true that what they call you may not always mean a whole lot in terms of romance, I think it’s useful in at least knowing how someone sees you, like, if we take Hiroshi-chan as example, even if it didnt actually mean she liked him in a romance way, it’d show him that she really does appreciate him and all. If that makes any sense

    • Typo! Not sure how I missed that.

      And agreed. If it doesn’t mean romance, it shows level of friendship.

      • Ashame it is still hard to distinguish the boundary between getting to date the girl (Oh yea!ウキウキ) or slipping away into the “friendzone” (NOOOOOOOooooooo……..かなしい)

    • Haha. Except for the part about referring to one’s self in the third person, all of these apply to men showing interest (or friend levels) to women. So please absorb the knowledge.

  2. I find that most Japanese girls are easy to get along with and very friendly. Even if you don’t try too hard, most of the time they treat you nice in return.

    It may be hard to get a Japanese gf as they are quite reserved and shy but if you do things right, they would go for you.

  3. I´m fucking lost with the Japanese girls’ reaction I don´t know what they want to do..if they are interested or not actually I tried with a some of them before, but now I’m fucking in love with a Nagoya girl but I don´t know
    What can should I do to let know her about my feelings….any advice i would be very greatful

    • While I’m no expert on this subject, usually honesty works best along all cultures/languages. Tell her how you feel?

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *