There are an endless number of ways to tell if a girl likes you. I’m sure. And most of this probably applies to Japanese girls as well. But there’s a unique way in Japan to tell how interested a girl may be. It all comes to down to a name. Depending on how close or distant a guy and girl are, the way the guy is called by the girl can reveal a lot about the way she feels about him.
Let’s make it clear by using Hiroshi Suzuki (the most common first and last names in Japan) as an example. And remember, since the pronoun “you” is rarely used in Japan, the below names are used in place of the word “you” in normal conversation.
It generally goes in the following order:
Distant – san attached to the person’s last name.
Somewhat distant – san attached to the person’s first name.
Slightly distant – kun attached to a person’s first name.
Somewhat close – using just the person’s first name.
Close – attaching chan to the person’s first name.
1. Hiro-chan, Hi-chan, Shi-chan
Very close – abbreviating the person’s first name in a cute way and adding chan.
A real bonus hint
Up until now this may seem pretty normal. Using name endings and politeness to show distance or closeness makes sense. But there is one additional factor to show that she may be interested in you.
If she goes from the pronoun I, わたし(Watashi) or the more casual あたし(Atashi), and starts using her own name in the third person, things are looking good.
Which looks like the following:
If a girl starts referring to herself in the third person, she may have romantic interest in you. And that’s Japanese romance in a nutshell!
Super Warning: all of the above may actually mean nothing, and it is just her trying to be friendly to you.
But, if you are lucky enough, this could be you:
Pictures taken from the manga: 僕だけがいない街
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